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Striving for independence, isolation, unwillingness to spend all their free time together, the growing authority of peers, rebellion against everything ... Sound familiar? A child previously fished every word, now do not appreciate the advice? And what's more, not wanting to talk shuts his ears? What happened, and how to return that cute kid who unquestioningly obey? Fundamentally wrong approach. First of all you need to change your style of behavior. Unless of course you want to be heard.
Do not read the lecture
If you spent the first 60 seconds of conversation for reading notations "And when I was your age," you can not continue further. Attention of the teenager shuts off after one minute.
Do not blame
Do not start a sentence with the prosecution. Instead of: "You did not professional writing services, do the lessons again!", you better say "I'm upset that you're putting off studying for the last place".
Talk between times
It is difficult to expect that the 15-year-old daughter to be honest, when you drill her with your eyes. It is better to ask her to help cook dinner, talk and slicing vegetables. You speak as if from outside while walking, or when driving a car. Nobody likes when someone is trying to extort something from him, namely this way teens perceives questions. The phrase, "Sit down, I want to talk to you" causes natural wariness.
Get to know new technologies
It's no secret that to write, often easier than said. Try to send a couple of humorous messages in a chat, and then ask how are you doing in school. You will see that the story will be more expanded than in verbal communication.
Their books, music, fashion, sport. All this may seem unusual and strange. However, if you at least try to learn more about hobbies of the teen, and show your awareness, you deserve respect, "Wow, mom knows that manga is not the same as mango"
Do not be afraid to praise
Parents often believe that praise is necessary only for the excellent marks. However, adolescents need approval in all their affairs. Son playing computer games on the network, or is engaged in historical reconstruction? Be interested in the success and praise. Of course, it is desirable to first master the vocabulary, if rather unusual hobby.
Scream is not an argument
Do not assume that uttered with raised voice your arguments will become weightier. Teenager take it as your breakdown and that they are right: "If the mother screams, so that she has nothing more to say." Trust, said in a calm voice, "I'm worried about you," much clearer then outcry, "I spend two hours trying to call you!"